It was a big weekend for our little boy, Maxton. It was so amazing I figured I’d like to share it with you guys!
As some of you know our son just turned 1 (I know where has the time gone?) We had his birthday party and his baptism this weekend. We are so proud of him. He really handled it like a little gentleman.
Thank you to all my friends and family for showing up to celebrate our little boy! Special shout out to my mom for making all the food! To my family for helping us set up and clean up. And for all the amazing gifts! Max is truly blessed with all the love and support.
So crazy to think that, it felt like yesterday, when we got engaged and were just thinking about having a child. And here we are, over one year later. With a fun, healthy and thriving boy. I was so hesitant about proposing to Meaghen, not because I didn’t want to but I was worried that everything would work out. With our future together, my business and all the stuff in between. And I can tell you right now, it’s all working out.
Sitting here taking it all in, here are some things I learned:
1. Take risks. When we follow our heart and take that risk into uncertainty, the universe/god guides us and everything ALWAYS works out in some way. ALWAYS.
2. Slow down. Time flies. Especially moments we have with our loved ones. It’s easy to be on our phones when in reality we need to spend that quality time paying attention to our family. We can never get those moments back.
3. Trust. In ourself and the journey we are on. We have 2 options: Go through life with more stress and strain. Or flow through life trusting that everything happens exactly as it should. When we can be in a place of more trust. Things flow easier and we go through life happier.
Easier said than done. But with more intention, we will have the awareness to catch ourselves and bring ourselves into the present moment. In the end that is all we truly have.
Thanks for following the journey. From the bottom of my heart.
Grateful for you,
Steve Ramos
Tag: takerisks
Slow down
Uncertainty
Fear of the unknown. Of starting a family. Of taking any risk.
Should I? What if this goes wrong? What if I fail? I don’t know if I can do it. I know I want to, but the fear of the unknown, the uncertainty, is preventing me from doing it. So we wait. And wait. And wait. Even though your gut, your intuition, is damn near screaming at you to do it. Does this sound familiar?
These are common questions, thoughts, concerns that run through all of our minds before any big decision. As they should.
Even before Meaghen and I were engaged, I really wanted to propose but I thought about everything: how would I afford a ring? How would I afford a wedding? A child? A new home? All of that overwhelmed me. I felt at times I couldn’t even take care of myself.
I spoke with my aunt and uncle for advice. They talked to me about taking a leap of faith. What they said really stuck with me: Sometimes you are unsure of how everything will work out. But if you truly believe, in your heart, it is something that you need to do, you must take that leap of faith. Focus on one thing, then do whatever you need to do to figure it out and most importantly have faith in yourself, Universe, God. Have courage, take the next step, put in the daily work and have faith. If you do that whole heartedly, everything just seems to work out. Someway, somehow.
It seemed so far fetched for me. But it was something that I know I needed to do. Once I commited to buying the ring I put in work. I meditated on it, I journaled on it, I asked for help (in my mind). It’s crazy when you just put it out there, the universe, God conspires to help you.
That same week I gained 5 clients. They seemed to drop in my lap. They all reached to me. Boom, just like that, within a couple months I had enough cash to put aside to buy the ring!
For me, starting my own business was scary enough. As an entrepreneur, things aren’t stable. Clients come and go. And I’m always feeling like I’m having to try and “sell.” But I had to really have faith in myself and my ability to do the work. The most important thing was to have faith in my ability to figure it out. That was the game changer. Even if I didn’t know how, at the time, I had to have faith that it would work itself out.
And here we are. Almost one year later. With a beautiful, healthy baby boy. And it is all just working out. And it feels right.
I reflect on where I think I should be versus where I am. I create stress and suffering within myself because I think I’m supposed to be farther ahead. With business. With finances. With a home etc… But then I hold my son and realize that I am exactly where I need to be. When we can let go of those expectations but still strive to be better each day, life becomes more free. We live with more ease. With more joy. With more love and more happiness. In the end, that is truly what life is all about.
I have no idea what the future holds but I will keep waking up early and doing the best I can each and every day. And when I want to give up, I remind myself “DO IT FOR THEM.”
Fucking grateful,
Stephen Albert Ramos